Christians and Intimacy

 

    This week in Family Relations we discussed an interesting topic this week in class. We talked about

having a healthy and fulfilling intimate life with a spouse. Which I thought was a really interesting topic

to talk about. We talked about some of the differences between men and women. My favorite comparison

was that men are like microwaves and that women are more like crockpots. But one thing that I thought

was interesting was we talked about going from not having intimate relations and then transitioning into

it. For myself I found this to be the most interesting because as Christian I’ve always thought about how

you can have a fulfilling intimate life even if you wait till marriage. Because it has always sometimes

seemed like it would be hard to transition from doing pretty much nothing and now all the sudden

everything is okay to do. And I think this is a common concern for many other people that are waiting

for marriage. Cause I do think that parents or leaders don’t inform us on some of these things.

Making some people become a little naive or nervous. But some great things that we talked about in

class was being able to have clear and reliable communication with not only our partner but even at an

early age being able to have communication with our parents. 

I think it is very important to be able to communicate clearly with our spouse about going into the new world of married life including intimacy. One of things that I think can become a very important variable going into is that a couple should discuss what to expect when going into it. For both sides no matter man or women it can be very nerve racking especially because of media in today's day in age has really built up everyone's expectations about sex. But one thing I think is important to learn is that you can still take it slow, because you are still transitioning into it. An analogy that my professor talked about that I thought was a great example was that say you have a really amazing aunt who you are really close with and also happens to be loaded with lots and lots of money, and you are getting married and due to some circumstances, your aunt can’t come to the wedding but while you are at your reception your aunt wedding gift comes in. The gift is huge with wrapping paper all over it. So, you have the option of either running up to it and just ripping the wrapping paper off, or you could slowly tear the paper off and take your time. I thought this was a great analogy displaying that you can discuss with your partner about even taking it slow and that it is okay to take your time “unwrapping” the paper.

Not only having communication with your partner I think it is really important to be able to have someone that is able to explain to you what to expect, but a more common example of this would also be usually a parent. One thing that I think is that parents should teach their kids growing up even if you are Christian, I think it is important to still inform them. I think that it is important to not scare kids away from it, but instead talk about how it is a great thing that God did give it as a gift, and it is meant to be enjoyed. But that it is a sacred thing and because it is such a sacred wonderful thing that God has given to us it is important for us to do in the bond of marriage. Another reason why I think it is important to educate daughters on this subject is because if you don’t inform them. They will get their information from somewhere else because they are curious. And being able to understand and having some knowledge of what to expect can make it less nerve racking when going into the world of intimacy. 

Overall, I believe one of the most important things we can do when it comes to teaching our children about intimacy is that communication is key. That it can be easy for someone to come to their parents about intimacy without sugar coding it and being able to be a reliable source for them as a parent. But to also be able to talk to your partner about going into intimacy and about how to go about things. 

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