Getting Engaged


In my Family Relations class, we have started to talk a lot about the different stages in relationships from “hanging out” to marriage. But most specifically we talked about getting engaged. About how traditionally getting engaged was a more private and intimate moment, but recently it has really become something to post on Instagram to tell everyone. It is really interesting how it has changed through the years. And I think everyone has their opinions on how it should and should be done. But I thought it was really interesting to discuss some of the benefits of going through a more traditional approach to getting engaged. That it’s okay if not everyone sees cause in the long run it’s all about you and your fiancé. And every couple is different on how they would want their proposal to go. For myself I’ve never really put much thought into getting engaged, but when I see engagements, I only get to see the ones that everyone posts. Through the week we discussed some of the many changes within proposals and getting engaged and that getting engaged doesn't have to be a big declaration on your Instagram feed and that it’s okay for them to be private. 

Getting engaged now there is now a certain pressure to make sure everyone knows that you are engaged and that you are able to post about it on socials. Traditionally now you kind of talk about getting married and plan on getting engaged and might even have dates planned out before getting engaged. So now the movie idea of a surprise proposal isn’t really there anymore. I can honestly see the benefit of it cause if you are talking about getting married into the future of the relationship, I think it makes it easier to determine the other person’s intentions when getting married. For myself I think I would like an idea of someone who is going to propose to me cause if I think the person, I’m dating is discussing the possibility of marriage, and I didn’t think that person was right for me. I would be able to identify that we don’t have the same intentions and to end the relationship. Another thing that I think is different about now is that everyone feels like they have to make their proposal public, and I think this has a lot to do with the media. So now the only proposals that we see are the ones that are public and so it tends to overshadow the idea of a more intimate proposal. But overall, I think it depends on what the couple wants to do and what they think would be special for them. 

Though it can be fun to have a big proposal, sometimes a more private proposal or engagement can be just as special and memorable. When proposing to the person you love sometimes even the simplest things can be the best. Even if it’s just the two of you it can become so special and, in a way, can be more sacred. Cause that proposal is yours and no one else. Even if it’s just going to a lake that the couples always enjoyed going to, it doesn't have to be a huge thing for the world to see because the focus for the proposal is for the couple. It becomes a special moment for the couple and not for anyone else. Sometimes the traditional things were great in their day and still great in the present day. 

Getting engaged is a beautiful and special moment for any couple, and it’s a step closer to tying the knot for them to be together forever. That couples shouldn’t be worried about being too big and too small for getting engaged because in reality it isn’t about anyone else except the couple. And that moment can be a cherished moment forever. 

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