The Difference

In my family relations class this week we had a very interesting discussion about some of the differences between men and women. But not concerning the biological differences but some of the mental and emotional differences between the two. We talked about some of the basics that we all kind of already know about, how women tend to be more nurturing whereas men tend to be more of the protectors. But some of the examples we talked about that I thought were really interesting were about how boys seem to either put their full effort into something but won’t put any effort into something else whereas women tend to be more scattered in their focus. Then we also talked about how men tend to focus more on being right despite the outcome whereas women tend to think more of the outcomes. Throughout the discussion we discussed many of the differences between men and women when it comes to their focuses on life and the differences in between their decision making. 

One of the differences between men and women mentally is their efforts into certain things in their lives. In my life I tend to see that men tend to either put 110% effort into something and then maybe 5% into something. Then women I think tend to put their effort into many things at once. I definitely see this difference in my own family. A direct example I have of this was when my family and I were cleaning out my grandmother's house and my father wanted to focus on just one room to clean out at a time. But my mother on the other hand thought that we should just do a bunch of things all at once, which definitely caused some disagreement. Another example that I have from my family is from my little brother. My little brother has always been kind of a late talker and he wasn’t all that interested in getting into it. So it became very difficult for my mom to get him into it. But when my mom was able to get him into it he put all of his effort into it. But even for myself I find that when I’m trying to get things done I have a hard time focusing on one thing cause I’m also thinking about multiple other things that I need to get done.

Another thing that I think is interesting about the difference between men and women is their decision making. I tend to find that men are more focused on being right without thinking about the outcome and tend to be more impulsive. But women tend to think more about the outcome and how it affects everyone. In my family I tend to think this when I’m having a discussion with my father and sometimes when he disagrees on things my father has a hard time apologizing because he knows he’s right and doesn't think that it should hurt someone’s feelings and that the other person should just accept it. But for some women I know for myself that sometimes it is harder for me to make some decisions because I think too much about other people's feelings on how it is going to affect everyone else or how everyone else is going to feel. 

Overall, from these examples I think it displays why it is important that we have both men and women and that we are all different. I also think it shows that men and women are able to balance each other out pretty well with a lot of things. Also, that it can be a good that we don’t all think the same, even if sometimes it can become difficult.